Down With Gardening Snobbery
As a garden writer, I read a lot of gardening blogs and articles by other writers and landscape designers and I have to say, I’m finding them increasingly annoying and depressing. So much judgment and negativity—who died and made us the arbiters of all things right and tasteful?

When I’ve finished sipping tea from my golden cup, I shall tell you all what to plant in your gardens.
Without naming the writer and being a jerk when I’m trying to write about why it’s important to not be a jerk, let me just say that recently I read a blog post that pushed me over the edge. It was a short piece, posted by a writer who had a day off so she rented a bike in a nearby town and peddled around looking at gardens.
It was a beautiful blue-sky day, but she really couldn’t enjoy it because most of the homes she biked past were landscaped with predictable perennials, particularly KnockOut® roses and catmint (Nepeta). The fact that most of the roses were RED only accentuated the humdrum nature of the plants in her mind, and she posted a few pictures to bolster her point with “sophisticated” readers like us. Ugh. How can this sort of thing be helpful to anyone?
Sure, experienced gardeners or those with the good fortune to have an impermeable force field of self-esteem might read snobby comments like that and think: “To hell with her, I love my KnockOut roses.” But for many mortals trying to garden, it’s no fun to read something written by someone who is supposedly in the know that basically says you have bad taste if you plant certain things (or allow them to be planted by a landscaper) and you ought to know better. This kind of senseless garden bullying isn’t helpful or inspiring and needs to stop.
A Matter of Taste
I will confess right now that I am guilty of garden snobbery. I have written disparaging things about annual geraniums, dusty miller and other plants I don’t like. Thinking about it now, I can’t imagine how I ever thought that might be useful to anyone. Please accept my sincere apology for behaving like such a self-important turd.
But don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that garden writers should only write nice things about plants. On the contrary, plants that perform poorly are absolutely fair game. It’s our job to spill the beans on crappy plants that don’t bloom well, fail to be as hardy as advertised or are riddled with diseases they’re supposed to be able to resist. And there’s nothing wrong with pointing out that certain plants are being used an awful lot and suggesting alternatives. That’s information that people can use. But slamming plants based on personal preference, or nattering on about how sophisticated gardeners would never have this or that “over-planted” plant in their gardens, is on par with shaming high school classmates over their choice of jeans.

I like our crowded gardens, but not this weird lens filter that makes the world look as if we’ve smeared Vaseline on everything. Gross.
Let’s face it. Whether you’re a professional or a novice, when it comes right down to it, plant picks and gardening styles are always about personal taste. Like most gardeners, I plant what I like, and what is given to me and what I find by the side of the road with a “Free” sign on it. I know and respect many local landscape designers, and I do follow some of their advice, but I don’t want to hire one of them to reimagine my yard for me. Then, I would be living with their taste, not mine. I like the crowded, overgrown gardens I have imagined for myself and I ignore the finger-waggers who question my taste level. You should too.
A slightly different version of this post appeared recently in Northern Gardener magazine.
rickngentilly
im just sayin………….
great post.!!!!!!!!!!
my neighbor calls our knockouts knockoffs. : )>
Charlie@Seattle Trekker
Gardens are as much in your head as they are all around you. Don’t ever let someone take from you that feeling that makes them special and perfect.
Caroline Spear
I work for a company that publishes three small local weekly newspapers and write a garden column for Green Thumbs that appears in all three every few weeks. I try to present information only from my perspective: how things work FOR ME, what grows well FOR ME, how I might do things…. and you the reader can take it from there. My way is certainly not the only way to garden, nor is it necessarily the right way. So I wholeheartedly agree with this post–your garden is your own; do what you like with it and ENJOY it!!
Dorota
Hi Meleah,thank you for this post. I’m in New Jersey-imagine hostas all over the state.Mostly planted in sunny areas and badly scorched.Where is any imagination?Not to mention a bit of knowledge.And everything is mulched!!!!! The Garden State looks rather like Carpenter Shop State.Do gardeners in Minnesota overmulch everything too?Thanks again D.
Meleah
Hi Dorota,
Thanks for your note. Mulch is a personal thing and I know many gardeners who use a lot of mulch and plenty who just hate it. I’m sort of in between. We’re also the hostas-all-over-the-place state! 🙂